OK, it’s not really a rule (except in my personal fantasy world). But I am tired of sane, neurotypical people talking about how terrible psychiatric medications are. Really tired of it.
Now, if I want to talk about how terrible psychiatric meds are, I can do that, because I take them. I actually experience the side effects. Same goes for other people who take or have taken them. It’s kind of like, I can complain about my parents, but if some random person comes and says something bad about my parents OH HELL NO.
So I might say, in a certain mood, “I hate that I’m on all these meds.” Another person who’s weaned off their meds might say, “I think it’s ridiculous that they had me on 5 medications,” and I might commiserate about the imprecision of current psychopharmaceuticals. But if a sane person who’s never taken psychiatric drugs comes and says “The medication cocktails people take for mental health problems are ridiculous,” OH HELL NO.
Because you don’t get to decide if it’s ridiculous. You don’t live with my brain. You don’t get to decide if it’s worth it for me, any more than I get to decide if it’s worth it for somebody else. The only person who can decide if the meds are worth it is the person taking them.
Let me say that again: The only person who can decide if the meds are worth it, is the person taking them.
That’s true whether the person decides it IS or ISN’T worth it. Telling somebody “The side effects can’t be that bad, maybe you’re imagining them,” or even “This medication can’t cause that side effect!” (thanks ignorant psychiatrist) is ableist. Telling somebody that “these medications are serious and have serious side effects!” (duh) and therefore I shouldn’t be taking them (thus assuming that the problem I’m taking them for isn’t serious) is also ableist.
Why do people have such strong feelings about medications they’ve never taken, anyway? How often do you hear people who don’t take blood pressure medications complaining about blood pressure medications? People who don’t take seizure medications complaining about seizure medications? (Some of which are the same medications!) Do people who don’t take asthma medications post memes saying that instead of risking oral thrush from steroids, everybody should just breathe clean air?
Dear sane people: stop telling me how to feel about my medications. My decade+ of experience with them is much more complicated and nuanced than your whitewashed view of this matter will ever be.
Yes, even if your whitewashed view is based on a family member’s experience.